The Sacred Space Between Grief and Growth: An Astrological Perspective

What if the space between where you are and where you want to be isn’t a void—but a womb?

We don’t talk enough about the in-between. The stretch of time after the grief but before the breakthrough. After the inner work but before the external reward. That space can feel like limbo—confusing, frustrating, even triggering. It’s where doubts creep in and where your self-worth gets tangled up in timelines.

You’ve done the work. You’ve cried the tears. You’ve opened your heart. So… where is it? Where is the love, the clarity, the career shift, the next chapter you’ve been manifesting?

I’ve been sitting in that space lately—both personally and professionally. While I'm proud of the life I’ve built, especially in the wake of my divorce, I still have moments where I wonder if I’ve done enough, if I’m missing something, if I should be further along. The gap has a way of bringing those thoughts to the surface. And when it does, I lean on the tools that ground me—especially astrology, ritual, and the inner knowing that everything unfolds in divine time.

1. Understanding the Gap

One of the most powerful teachings I’ve come across is this: delays aren’t punishments. They’re often protection. Or better yet, preparation.

During my divorce, Uranus was squaring my nodal axis—a powerful cosmic nudge that helped me trust that the upheaval wasn’t failure, it was fate. I remember also looking at the chart for my wedding day and realizing I had ignored my intuition. I was so eager for love and stability that I convinced myself I was ready. But I wasn’t. I had to learn how to sit with myself. How to love myself. How to build a life that felt good in my own skin.

And I did. I still am. That doesn’t mean I never get triggered—but it does mean I’ve built a foundation of trust in my path and my process.

Still, the waiting can stir up those old fears:

• Why isn’t it happening yet?

• What am I missing?

• Maybe I’m not enough after all…

I’ve found that those thoughts don’t usually come from truth—they come from misalignment. From an identity still tethered to proving or pleasing. From the old version of me that’s not quite caught up to the self I’m becoming. It’s like waiting for the thing I want to validate me instead of embodying the version of myself who already feels aligned, grounded, and worthy. It’s so easy to go back to that old version of myself.

What’s helped is reminding myself that this space isn’t empty. It’s active. It’s sacred. And often, the biggest shifts are happening in the unseen.

2. Astrology as a Divine Timing Tool

Astrology helps me trust the unseen. It reminds me that every cycle, every transit, has purpose—even the foggy ones.

Neptune’s recent transit through my 9th house completely dissolved the belief systems I used to stand on. It was disorienting, yes—but it also gave me permission to rewrite the rules. To decide what I believe about myself, my work, my worth, and what kind of life is possible.

Now, with Neptune moving across my Midheaven, I’ve felt another layer of uncertainty—particularly around how I show up in the world and what Aruna is evolving into. I don’t see Aruna as just a business anymore—she feels like her own entity, with her own spirit and purpose. I’m simply the channel through which she speaks, creates, and transforms. This means I’ve had to listen more, push less, and allow her to unfold in her own divine timing, too.

And with all of that… I’ve had to tune in to something even deeper: my own internal rhythm.

That’s where the moon has become my greatest teacher. By tracking her cycles, I’ve learned to notice when I’m most energized, when I need rest, and when I’m in creation mode versus reflection. Working with the moon has helped me honor my own natural flow rather than force outcomes on someone else’s timeline.

Just recently, we had a Full Moon in Scorpio. I looked back at my Scorpio New Moon intentions from six months ago and asked: What has changed? What has grown, even if I didn’t notice it happening in real time?

This practice reminds me that growth is not linear. It’s cyclical. It’s ever-evolving. Sometimes it blooms in the light, and sometimes it germinates in the dark. But it’s always happening.

3. Practical Tools for the Waiting Period

So what do I do when I feel stuck in the gap? When the fog rolls in and the doubts get loud? I come back to the practices that keep me connected to myself:

• Moon Work: I set intentions at each New Moon and revisit them at the Full Moon—especially six months later when the same sign returns. It helps me see progress in a new light.

• Water Rituals: Baths are sacred. They aren’t just about cleansing—they’re about tuning in. Releasing what’s heavy. Inviting softness and surrender.

• Visualization & Embodiment: I don’t just visualize my dreams. I try to feel them now. What would it feel like to already have them? And how can I embody that version of me today?

• Journaling & Card Readings: I write to hear myself more clearly. And when I need guidance, I pull cards. Lately, The Emperor has shown up often—calling me into my sovereignty, discipline, and inner authority.

And maybe most importantly, I’ve committed to cultivating the best version of myself—not for anyone else, but for me. That means nourishing my body through mindful eating, honoring my need for sleep, training with intention, and surrounding myself with people and practices that expand me. That’s part of the manifestation too—choosing to live in alignment with the version of me I know I’m becoming.

Conclusion: The Womb of Becoming

So here’s what I’ve come to believe:

This space isn’t a void. It’s a womb.

A sacred holding place. A place where your growth is real—even when it hasn’t taken shape yet. Where your desires are forming—cell by cell, layer by layer.

You’re not being withheld from your manifestations. You’re being prepared to receive them fully.

In this space, let yourself rest. Let yourself listen. Let yourself become.

Keep tending to your inner rhythm. Keep trusting the slow magic. Keep showing up for yourself even when the outcome isn’t clear.

Because what you’re waiting for? It’s already on its way.

And the version of you who’s meant to receive it? She’s already forming—right here, in the sacred space between.

This isn’t just something I’ve read about—it’s something I’ve lived. And it’s what allows me to hold space for others as they move through their own gap seasons. Because I know what it’s like to question everything and still choose to trust the process. That’s what makes the work I do so personal—and so powerful.

Affirmation:
I trust the rhythm of my becoming. Even in the waiting, I am growing. Even in the dark, I am being prepared.

If this resonates, you might also enjoy my recent reflections on grief as a catalyst for growth and reclaiming your rhythm—both speak to the journey of becoming and the deeper alignment that unfolds when we trust ourselves, even when the outcome isn’t clear.

If you're navigating your own sacred space between, you don't have to do it alone. Astrology has been a powerful tool on my journey—and it might offer you the clarity and comfort you’ve been searching for too.

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You’re exactly where you need to be.

With lunar love,

michelle